Are you tired of the bachelor lifestyle? Do you think you would be happier if you had someone special to share your life with? If you answered “yes” to these questions, it sounds like you are ready to settle down and get a girlfriend. That is wonderful, but how on Earth do you go about accomplishing this elusive feat? Women are fickle creatures that defy our attempts to understand them, and yet you have to somehow convince one to hang out with you all the time, trust you with her feelings and (hopefully) enjoy physical intimacy with you.
Luckily, most girls are just as eager to get a boyfriend as you are to become one. Your job is to present yourself as an ample suitor and understand the language of desire so as not do or say anything too stupid before she falls for you. To pull this off, you should know a few things about what they look for in a guy.
Most guys go to great lengths to impress women, and this is where things usually go wrong. Women do not want to be impressed; they want to connect with a guy in a genuine and meaningful way. They want a guy who is confident enough to be himself not an insecure man-child who relies on pickup lines and tall tales. Every girl you meet is an actual person with flaws, shortcomings and insecurities, so resist the urge to pretend you are Mr. Perfect and just rely on your natural charms and attributes.
If you want to give yourself a dating advantage over most other guys out there, simply listen attentively to women when they are talking to you. Most guys are so busy thinking of what to say next that they fail to listen to what the girl is saying to them. Communication is immensely important for women, and they will always notice when a guy is not really listening to them. This is a huge turn-off, as it implies that what they have to say is not important to you. If you want a woman to run in the other direction, ignore her when she is talking. If you want to get a girlfriend, work on your attentive listening skills.
Get Out There
Thanks to the internet, you can now meet new people without leaving your house. This is a great option for introverts, but meeting people face-to-face is usually a better one. There is nothing wrong with joining a few online dating sites, but make an effort to go to parties and other social events as well. It is much easier to see if you have chemistry with someone when you are not conversing through cyberspace. Plus, it is a lot more exciting when you are out in the real world looking into a girl’s eyes as opposed to reading her profile on Match.com. If you do meet someone interesting online, set up an actual meeting sooner rather than later so you can see if “the spark” is there between the two of you.